The Day Before//Wedding Planning
OK folks, this is a going to be a bit of a controversial blog – and I know I am in danger of offending lots of couples, However, I’ve never been one to shy away from saying what I feel, and I feel this needs to be said.
I want to talk about the day before your wedding. Before we go further, I want to say all this with a caveat – this is just my opinion. You need not pay attention. I wont take offence. You can tell me I am talking baloney, that my opinion stinks, and I still wont mind. But it’s something I have been biting my tongue about and I think it’s time I said it.
Lets talk about ‘The day before your wedding’. The day before you marry your soul mate. The day before your most expensive day of your life (Probably). The day before one of the most meaningful days of your life. And you choose to spend it putting up balloons. Or displaying sweets. Or hanging bunting, Or all three.
I am about to suggest something a little radical. Don’t.
Yes, really. Don’t. OK, so I am pretty sure there are some of you out there who have stopped reading. Fair enough. But for those of you who don’t hate me quite yet, here are my reasons why you should choose to do something different on your last day as a unmarried couple.
Firstly, if it’s not made before now, it’s probably not worth making. Get everything sorted before hand, deliver to your suppliers and leave. There are professionals out there who will hang bunting, balloons and display sweets. Many venues are happy to even put the odd table plan on an easel if you ask nicely. They have probably done it hundreds of times before. Yes, it can cost more to have pros do the job. BUT often it is a false economy to DIY everything, things can end up costing as much, if not more than the pros, and, think of all that time you save. You could have a manicure, a spa, a walk with your visiting family, or just rest. Enjoy your pre-wedding day and let others do it all for you. Think of it as ‘Time Spent’ VS ‘Time Well Spent’. (Thanks Pinterest for that one)
Secondly, I have a real bee in my bonnet about couples and their family and friends seeing the ‘behind the scenes’ of a wedding. Honestly, it is not pretty. Sweating, stressing and swearing happen a lot. Sometimes things don’t go as smoothly as the supplier may wish, and the pressure when the couple are there is amplified. A THOUSAND times. Picture your wedding. Go on. In every detail, the sights, the sounds, the smells. The look of love in your partners eye. The smiles, the laughter of your guests. I BET your perfect day does not include a florist running at a thousand miles an hour, their van loaded with two other weddings. Your perfect day does not, I suspect, include a sweary man up a ladder changing light bulbs. I could go on, but I suspect you have the picture. If you are the bride and groom of course you have every right to make sure things are going as you expect. But I would suggest you don’t actually have to be there the full day. Surely you spend so much time and effort planning your perfect day that, well, you should just turn up for your wedding and expect everything to be just the way you dreamt it would be? To me, the magic is somewhat lost for those who have been there whilst those who are employed to set the tables are doing so. Surely you just want to arrive and every teaspoon is in place, every peony is perfect, every light bulb is on and your vision is there. But even better than you could ever imagine, like a true fairy tale?
So, I’ve got that one off my chest. I know there are literally hoards of you who are lining up your bridesmaids, best men, mums, dads and second cousins to come and help you hang paper cranes, make favours, create guest books and write quotes on blackboards. A wedding is about family and friends after all. And I know you are hating me right now. Contrary to what I just wrote, we DO love to meet you all and see your excited faces.
But maybe one or two of you will understand what I am banging on about. Some will want to turn up to their wedding day, having not seen the venue dressed before hand, and have your breath stolen for the second time that day. You understand what I am saying, and hopefully this blog will help you feel that it is more than fine to just turn up and marry your loved one. Because that is really what a marriage is all about.
Photos thanks to Tiree Dawson Photography, except the ‘Behind the Scenes’ photo.